4-in-1 Person

The title of this post was the topic of my speech during my daughter's wedding reception yesterday, August 25. "Each of you got married to a 4-in-1 person. Incidentally, the nicest among those 4 persons is the one you just got married to." That was how I started my speech which I tried to make it short so I wasn't able to elaborate about the 3 other persons. In this post, I hope to give a clearer explanation about those three persons.

The second person pertains to the masculine side of the female spouse, or the feminine side of the male spouse, which manifests during certain situations. When a man cries for example, he is manifesting a feminine trait. On the other hand, a strong willed woman who makes a decision final is in her masculine state. That only means that occasional "exchange of roles" in marriage is perfectly normal.

The third person comes somewhat later and it is the scariest of the 4 persons because your spouse will show the traits of the person he or she hated most in the past. That person had shown the same undesirable traits your spouse will show at times in the future. I couldn't explain this phenomenon so we'll need a psychologist to do that.

The fourth person will be the last to manifest, showing traits or strong wants a person failed to do or have in the past because of constraints. In my case, I've always wanted to study interior design but was not financially able to take up such course earlier, so when I got my retirement pay at the age of more than 50, I enrolled in Philippine School of Interior Design. I just had a "taste" of the course though, because I realized later that going through a totally new career from scratch is not practical for my age, so just a background of it was enough.

Another example of the fourth person is a person who had wanted to follow the boldest trends in dressing up but was rather shy when he or she was younger, then overcame the shyness as time went by, so pursued that strong desire when already much older.

There will come a point any of the other 3 persons will be hard to tolerate so I told the newly-wed couple when that happens, "Listen to God. He has a special purpose why you were married to each other. His reason is quite different from yours."

That last statement was based on my personal experience. My union with my husband created two better humans than the two of us, and then the unexpected came much much later because we were blessed with the presence of an angelic special child and we were destined to become her parents. Most people would say the child is lucky to have us as her parents, but in reality it is us who were lucky to have her, because she has transformed us to gradually become better persons.

How to be a successful business owner

To be a successful business owner, a mindset void of negativities is required. A mindset consisting of the following values are required to be successful, and if one of these values is absent, a change of mindset is necessary.

1. You are a business owner. You are the boss of yourself so you must require yourself to work a number of hours each day.

2. Meet your business partners regularly and discuss issues and strategies, but set a time limit so there will still be time left for the family.

3. Focus. If you are a distributor of a big company, focus on the products of that company. Learn the benefits of the products by investing on product trainings. Learn the marketing plan if the company is a network marketing company.

4. Avoid network marketing companies that have “binary” marketing plans. There will be a point in time they will overpay but cease to operate before that happens. All your investments, including your time and effort for product trainings and other activities will be wasted.

5. Be an independent business owner even if it is a network marketing company you are a distributor of its products. Don’t depend on uplines and consider downlines as your business partners, not as your staff. If you don’t succeed, look at the mirror. Don’t blame uplines or downlines.

6. While attending seminars or trainings, make yourself an important person capable of echoing the seminar. Notify potential callers or texters that you have an important meeting and will switch off your cellphone. After that, don’t forget to switch off your cellphone. Otherwise, you’ll just pretend you’re learning something from the seminar but won’t retain anything in the process.

Amazing Tiens Beneficial Capsules

This is the first time I was really so amazed with a health product, thanks to the person who gave this very helpful tip to me. He had experienced what I had experienced for the last 3 weeks, I knew about his story but it was the understanding of symptoms in relation to medical terms that differentiated our experiences so I wasn't able to try the solution that solved his constant migraine in the past, and that was Tiens Beneficial capsules.

One morning after the Holy Week, I woke up dizzy, a feeling I experience when I lack sleep. I did not feel well the whole day so I just decided to recover with enough sleep the next days. But the next day, I felt the same and added to that was a severe though localized headache near my nape, and I noticed a swelling in that area. "My God, this might be a brain tumor!" I told myself. The pain can be relieved by the comb massage gadget of Tiens so the pain was not really a big deal.

The following morning, I noticed an acne on that painful part of my head or maybe it was already a furuncle because the swollen area was big. I then understood what I went through the previous days. The next day, another furuncle appeared on the same side (right) but at the most prominent part of my head at the top. I blamed the sample sachet of conditioner that I used. Luckily, acnes or furuncles are easily cured by Tiens herbal toothpaste (I'll write another blog post about this amazing product) so they were practically gone the next day. But the dizziness and headaches were still there and they lasted for 3 weeks! I concluded it was the intense heat that caused whatever I've experienced the past days, thanks to the Tiens comb that could always relieve any pain.

Until one day, my cousin followed up her comb massage gadget which I told her I will bring to the Tiens office because not all kinds of "AAA batteries" would fit. I knew she would need that fixed because the heat can cause headache so I immediately went to the office and immediately got a solution not only for my cousin's comb gadget but for my headaches as well. Before that, I was already talking to my Aunt about scheduling myself for an MRI so I will know if I really have brain tumor (I was not afraid 'cause I've researched they are usually benign and grow slowly). My friend who was at the Tiens office as the scheduled speaker at that time told me not to take any other supplements, just a doubled dosage of Tiens Beneficial three times a day, which meant 4 capsules 3x a day, for ten days to two weeks, because what I could have been experiencing was migraine due to hypoxia, because of the intense heat.

Right after dinner, I took 4 capsules of Tiens Beneficial. The next morning, it was the first time I didn't have any undesirable feeling of dizziness or headache for the past three weeks! That was Friday, and it is now Tuesday here, I just waited for a few days to confirm I am well before saying goodbye to migraine and hypoxia! I will take the doubled dosage of Tiens Beneficial until the intense heat is gone, or until our bedroom is already air conditioned hopefully this week. We have a special child so it's about time we do that, primarily for her welfare.

Checking the contents of Tiens Beneficial, I knew it has organic Vitamin C estimated at more than 1,000 mg. per capsule, beta-carotene from carrots, Jiaogulan or Gynostemma Pentaphyllum (the miracle herb of China), and I just read it also has Camelia Sinensis (green tea). I knew this is very good for cancer patients because of the oxygen it provides the cells and also for those living in the higher floors of condo units where oxygen level has decreased, but never thought it could address that lack of oxygen or hypoxia instantly!

For the elderlies

My longest phone conversation with a person I never met was with an old lady, a Chinese friend of my daughter. She didn't really sound old, but she's an elderly.

A senior citizen can be considered an elderly but perhaps most 60-year-old persons are still very strong and young-looking to be called elderly. So a safe reference for an elderly is one who has reached the age of 65.

The Chinese lady didn't sound old but she sounded full of wisdom. She said that an elderly should stick to a vegetarian diet. Except for vegetables, even most food at parties should be skipped, no matter how seldom the elderly attends a party, because if not, it could be the elderly's last day on earth.

I guess she's right because when a person reaches the age of 80, there is no way to change that person's diet anymore unless struck by a serious illness. That will only cause a lot of trouble where he or she lives.

Another tip of this sweet lady was when someone near or already in senior years reaches an age ending in "9", such as 59 or 69, that person should skip that age and declare the age next to that, even during the birthday that has to be celebrated. In this case also, the first tip always applies, to celebrate the birthday with a vegetarian diet.

Delicious Chemotherapy

The title of this post might sound weird but not to naturalists, I suppose. What you can see in the photo here is a favorite recipe in the Philippines, it is called "Seafood Afritada". The seafood that can be recognized are the squid rings and the shrimps, perhaps not so much the fried dory fillet and fish tofu. The basic ingredients of "afritada" like potatoes and red bell pepper were of course included.

How about the sauce? Of course there is tomato sauce and soy sauce for seasoning and more, and that "more" is my secret which I would like to share. I add turmeric powder and black pepper, and one important information I'd like to share about these two spices is that when they are mixed together they make a very powerful chemotherapy for cancers. Wait, there should be a salad to go with afritada, and guess what will make the already powerful mixture of black pepper and turmeric as chemotherapy more powerful? It is broccoli, so that should be included as a default in any salad you'll serve with afritada.

Happy eating!

Red lips without lipstick

Do you want your lips to be red? That would be easy if you're an adult, just apply a red lipstick! But for kids, there are really more ways since it is not normal for them to use lipsticks and therefore have to be resourceful. When I was a kid we would just eat a strawberry flavored candy or wipe on our lips the petals of some red flowers.

Yesterday, I was not so comfortable when I was on my way to the FLEX (Foundations of Leadership Excellence) seminar because I forgot the case where I put my lipstick, blush-on and eyebrow pencil, which I usually apply on my face while inside the car.

I planned to use what I learned from TCM which is to stimulate the best acupoint of the spleen meridian found at the middle portion of the inner leg, around four fingers away from the inner ankle, to make my lips red. I could do that by rubbing or pressing the knuckle of my index finger to that point. But my lips were not really pale so I thought there was no need to do that.

I won't deny I was surprised why my lips were not pale as usual that was why a lipstick is an indispensable make-up for me. I thought perhaps my spleen was functioning well yesterday. But there was more to that and I just found out now. I just read that though worrying and over thinking will be bad for the spleen resulting to pale lips and suppressed energy, the opposite, meaning openness or positive thoughts and emotions will help the spleen function properly and that will be manifested by reddish lips. During the two days in the seminar, the participants were required to be open in their thoughts and emotions, especially on the second day.

But wait, there is one more fact to be considered. The spleen will not function well when exposed to cold, even just to cold drinks.

So if you want your lips to remain red or reddish in color, just be positively transparent in your thoughts and emotions , don't worry or over think, wear warm clothes in cold weather or temperature and don't take cold drinks. The bonuses are very important: a continuous supply of energy, good memories that the spleen could direct to the kidneys which are later transferred by the kidneys to the heart. Isn't that awesome?

"The Spleen's positive psycho-emotional attributes are trust, honesty, openness, acceptance, equanimity, balance, and impartiality; its negative attributes are worry, excessive thinking, pensiveness, obsessiveness, remorse, regret, obsessions, and self-doubt."

I'm mad!

Don't get me wrong, that was just the title of this post though I was really a bit mad a few days ago. The title is to call your attention to express your anger, but not by quarreling another person at that angry moment.

Some tips to express your anger:
1. Cry but don't let everyone know you're crying.
2. Shout your anger to the hills, the seas or any place of nature that can easily engulf your anger and replace it with a nice feeling.

Releasing your anger will not only release you from bad feelings but will prevent your liver from stress and from developing cancer cells that will later be distributed to the other vital organs. Anger is the number one cause of breast cancer.

If it's another person that caused your anger, cool down at least a day or two, and when you're in the right senses to listen and understand and speak rationally, discuss the issues with the other person involved.

Mankind Chi

This year of the Metal Rabbit, Feng Shui experts like Lillian Too predicted that "Mankind Chi can be harnessed very effectively to overcome the discordant energies of heaven and earth this year. We can focus on the mankind chi within all of us - focus on strengthening it - and in so doing, more effectively harness the spiritual energy of the empowered self to overcome obstacles and emerge triumphant."

Having read that, I wondered how I am going to harness my mankind chi. All I knew was to get together with people to accomplish that. As a result of meeting people, I was invited to a seminar on "Soul Consciousness". I hope to be more enlightened about my spiritual energy so I immediately said yes! It was amusing to discover how simple it is to place one's spiritual energy at a higher level and I'd like to share that to all.

Each and everyone should actively achieve the original qualities of the soul: peaceful, powerful, pure, positive, loving and joyful. Ten minutes before your regular waking time, meditate on achieving the original qualities of the soul, your soul, for the whole day. If that seem too hard to accomplish, focus on one quality first, until such time all qualities are achieved.

Change should start within ourselves, and now that we know how, we can be confident that everything in our surroundings will change too!

In case of emergency

When a friend or relative suddenly dies, that is so sad. Before my father died of cancer this second week of April, a friend and mentor from Toastmasters Club died of heart attack. And then another friend died yesterday of cardiac arrest. Perhaps people should know the acupoint that may save a person who has passed out for any reason. The acupoint is called Shuigo or GV-26 and is found at the middle right below the nostrils (at the junction of the upper and middle third of the philtrum).

Shuigo or GV-26 is the main point for restoring consciousness, for shock, revival from fainting, weakness, or helps patient to awaken. Specific indications include manic-depressive disorders, epilepsy, infantile convulsion, coma, trismus, puffiness of the face, deviation of the mouth and eye, pain and stiffness of the lower back. In case of emergency and no acupressure or acupuncture gadget is available around, use your fingernail and press on this acupoint obliquely towards the brain. In my case I always bring my Acupoint Treasure with electric pulse which is really intended for emergencies.

How I wish all my friends can read this so I won't hear any bad news anymore. By the way, the time of our friend's death yesterday was around 11:15 in the morning. I've told this friend one time to avoid activities between 11AM to 1PM because the heart is so active within these hours and can be prone to heart attack, and also to stop smoking! Anyway, we just learned he has a congenital enlarged heart. All we can do now is pray for him.

Jet Lag

It has been a very busy season and I haven't started researching for the nice things that can happen this year based on Feng Shui, so in the meantime, since there were a lot of people who spent Christmas in their hometowns, I thought it would we nice to share this very simple tip.

This tip teaches travelers to alleviate jet lag through an acupuncture point or acupoint called "LI4" or "Hegu" found at the joint intersection of the thumb and index fingers (please see illustration). While inside the plane, just press this point with the thumb of your other hand for 5 seconds, then while still pressing rotate clockwise for ten seconds, press for 5 seconds then rotate counterclockwise for 10 seconds. Repeat the cycle for one to three minutes and repeat the whole procedure after 4 hours. That balancing action will help you easily adjust to the timezone of another country. That is just the bonus of that action which mainly benefits the lungs (reduces cough and colds), eyes and many others. For fever, rotate counterclockwise because LI4 is a "yang" acupoint which is hot and moving, so to reduce or sedate, the "tonify" or clockwise action should be reversed.